You’re probably in the office stealing some time off to spoil yourself with this article, and so I’d best start here!
The chair you are sitting on, how many sleepless nights did you spend at it? Working on the right feel and look for presentations or proposals, drafts after drafts.
Aggressively putting in long hours of hard work and even at times sacrifice your life to be proactive, to land just that one client, and hit more sales or targets. Being the torrent and boardroom beast that is unapologetic about competition for better pay and position; sound like you, right?
So…we are generally familiar with the reality that attitude keeps you winning in business or at work but somehow, the same hasn’t been said and done for relationships.
As a dating coach, (some have even called me “the expert dating coach”) I can tell you that the hundreds of people I’ve spoken to and helped, have this one common problem- their attitude about themselves or others in relationships.
My question always is, why are we being such sissies and crybabies when it comes to our approach and demands in relationships?
Why we are so vague about what we want, expect, and are willing to give for relationships?
A lot of women I coach secretly desire a man to take care of them, especially financially but have never whispered it to their own shadows, after all, nobody wants to come across as a slay queen or blessee candidate… this is the same lady who is a definite goal chaser in the office by the way!
Why are you being apologetic about your true needs and desires? (Pause…Think!)
When will you stop the car, get off your bum and throw away the ‘back seat’ approach in the bedroom? Why can’t you tell him you love it when a man goes down on you?
Why don’t you tell him to hit it a bit harder? Or that you want to try that position you saw on a porn site?
What’s that, he doesn’t know you watch porn, you still haven’t told him?
I bet he also doesn’t know you also love sex, right?
Women are also sexual beings, the goddesses of pleasure, and that does not make them loose or sluts!
After all, how will your needs be met if you don’t say?
Maybe, a step back….before we even get our sexy lingerie off; did you wait to be chosen, do you still want to be chosen?
The wrong dating mentality demands you do extra things, that rarely make you happy just because you don’t believe you can attract a man with just the right attitude alone.
How low on earths’ entire standards are you planning to stay before you change your attitude about yourself and what you want?
Aren’t all these limitations, the source of why a lot of women live and maintain the mentality of worthless, lonely and depressed love lives?
There is no love rescue team squad that is coming to help your miserable dating life ladies.
Fortunately, you have to do this one alone, and it starts with changing your attitude!
The attitude about what you want and what your goals are will determine what you attract.
Discipline yourself; Tear away from believing what society says you should be.
You are a grown woman who knows what’s right and wrong. Don’t let anyone or thing refute that you are deserving of the experience you want from relationships.
Do away with being average to make a potential feel comfortable; it’s really that simple!
Stop pursuing relationships more than a potential man will do, only participate in a balanced dance of mutual chase, and master the art of giving is receiving, and no more.
Stop “forcing it” to be love; it may invite a few popping bottles and dates now and then, but when you start looking for love, it’s more than that; a great relationship will be beyond that.
Any woman can get dick, any woman can score bottles, a few months of attention and even a fake (bum…of course I mean ass) relationship; are those your entry requirements? I’m sure you are above that, above average… #KnowYour Worth Gurl!
More and more women are out to get what they want, are you happy there in your lil’ corner settling for the crumbs falling off their table?
What is it about you that even allows a man to think, “It’s okay not give her time, pleasure and even money?…Or even space in his filthy closet?
If you are in your late twenties and you still can’t tell a man what is it that you want …what does the future like?
If you are in your late twenties and you are still faking orgasms, what exactly are you hoping for?
You still can’t bring yourself to asking for help when help is needed, but your legs flicker and open no questions asked when he wants to Phola; what exactly are you saying?
And that time….you can’t even look at him, I mean in the eyes and ask where all this is going, and what he really wants…tell me, what does the future look like?
Why are a lot of women divorced from reality?
You are not getting any younger; it honestly serves no justice to your dating life by keeping a mediocre attitude. It’s time for an upgrade!
Do you care about how a man who treats you like that thinks about you?
In King James English, Why givest thou a rats bum about a man who doesn’t ask you about your life njhe; has he asked if you are happy, where you want to go, if you came/cum or even a thank you for the delicious food you cooked for him?
Where is thine head child?
Not checking your bank account doesn’t change the fact that you’re broke. Refusing to admit your frustration doesn’t end the frustration, not checking the attitude that hurts your dating life will only waste your valuable time.
Even more plainly, You don’t solve your problems by pretending you don’t have them.
It’s 2017, the end of it at that!
We are living in a world tailor-made for the strongest women to succeed, and the rest of them are intentionally kept in their little corners of weakest places.
The whips come from a place of love, a once shared struggle of trying to have a fruitful relationship.
No more quick fixes. No more running from the problems, after all…not facing them only makes matters worse.
To become a woman means truly knowing her worthy. That is the key to good things finally happening to her. Worthy of acceptance, of warmth, being desired, being cared and taken care of, being known, Appreciated, loved and GREAT…GREAT orgasmic sex.
This is the honorable goal, one on which your future happiness solely depends.
Whisper to your shadow, heck shout it out…I am unapologetically confident and sure about my needs and desires!